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I can’t seem to win…

I’ve never been good at getting along with people, it seems that my whole life I struggled to get people to like me. I’ve never seemed to know the right way to behave, how much and when to talk etc, or never known the right things to say.

It seems I still don’t know what to say and when, which topics are ok to discuss and I don’t seem to know enough about the outside world to be able to have enough different topics to discuss with anyone. I deliberately stopped watching news on tv a few years ago as I found all the reports about crime and accidents depressing.

There was too much news about how badly people were behaving against one another and too much blood and death going on in the world. Not watching enough tv can also be a bad thing also though as you also miss out on all the general and good news. It can then be hard to know what to talk about with people, as you then dont know the general world news.

I can’t get along with my husband much as we just don’t have hardly any interests etc in common, so we don’t have much topics we can discuss with each other. If I mention any of my personal hobbies like art or craft too much he thinks I’m doing too much hobbies and he thinks I’m neglecting the house duties etc. If I talk too much about my parents or other relatives too much he thinks I care too much about them and then he thinks it means that I care more about my other relatives more then him or our son. I can never seem to know the limits of when and how much to do anything in order to make anyone happy with me.

That’s all I know to talk about though, I start talking to him more about the house and what daily tasks I have completed for that day thinking that will make him happier talking to me, but then he says I don’t need to list him all I’ve done that day etc. I try to talk to him about our son more, about what we do during the day etc but then he usually always finds something to tell me off about as I always manage to forget something I should have done with our son etc. So then I tend to always feel that I am better off not to talk too much about our son as I always manage to get myself told off because I manage my time with our son so badly.

If  I talk to my Mum or any of my friends or relatives more then a few times a week and my husband know’s about it he tells me off again that he thinks I care more about my parents then I do about him and our son. If I see anyone more then a few times a month, again my husband blames me for caring more about other’s then I care about him and our son.

Half the time I definitely feel like I just don’t know what I’m doing in my attempts to communicate with people, I just know how to get along with people…

It’s not a nice feeling, I get too lonely if I void communicating with people too much, yet I also end up regretting most of my efforts to try to communicate with people as I just can’t seem to get along with anyone for more then five minutes. Then I end up questioning who I am and whether I’m actually a good person or not, I feel like I must be one of the worst people if I can’t manage to have any good normal conversations with anyone…

I just can’t ever seem able to get along with anyone and it makes me more sad and depressed…

How to keep going when you’re emotionally low…

When your emotional or mental health is at a low point, it can get pretty hard to keep working at trying to improve yourself. It can be pretty hard to work on improving your emotional health when you are too busy trying to stop it from getting worse. Sometimes it may seem hard enough merely to stop yourself from getting so low that you might resort to drastic negative steps such as hurting yourself to relieve some of the emotional pain you may be feeling.

Fighting off the negative demon’s can be so hard that it takes all your emotional energy and you often feel you don’t have enough to devote to try to make yourself happier for quite some time.

However, unless you totally give up on life and take the easy way out via suicide, there is no other option but to keep going. To continue living and continue on with everyday chores and duties that are assigned to you by your sex, age and your status in life.

Once you have struck rock bottom, it’s actually pretty easy to get back up and to continue working on everything, because as I said, unless you take the easy way out, there is actually no where else for you to go and nothing else to do. Once you get to the lowest point emotionally or physically, there is no other direction to go. Once you get to the point that you can’t go any lower, you can only go higher and can only improve, as you can’t get any worse already…

Also it’s key that you try to remember and visualise other times when you know you have been in a better situation, as this reminds and shows you that you can and have done better in the past. So you can see that you actually can do better again now as well. To know and remember that you have been emotionally healthier and happier is the best motivator, as you can’t disprove to yourself that you can’t manage to improve as you have already seen yourself in a better state.

It makes the process easier to simply live every day individually without planning too much for the future and without allowing yourself to wallow in any past failure or negative thoughts. Any short amount of time you manage to get something done should be seen as an accomplishment and used to help motivate you to get more done. Give yourself small prices as a celebration for every small goal you achieve and allow yourself to be happy with all small accomplishments.

If necessary make short lists of all things that you need to get done and don’t allow yourself to worry too much about any larger goals you need to get done, as this will possibly lead to procrastination and needless worry and stress.

Use positive affirmations and anything other positive information that you find helpful to help motivate yourself. Get someone who loves you to help motivate you, or try playing happy positive songs to get yourself going.

The main thing to remember is that you are only human, and every human is known to be making mistakes once in a while and that it’s not the end of the world if mistakes are made, days continue passing and people will continue to love you no matter what.