Tag Archive | Self Help

Current art and craft projects

Here is an update on my current projects!

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This is my first completed art project, an acrylic painting on canvas paper, it’s called Fashion Diva and is available for sale on both bluethumb and on my etsy store. This is a painting depicting my love of fashion and art.

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I am also working on another acrylic painting on canvas paper, which I am calling Broken wing. For me this depicts my struggle against the outside world. It shows my struggles with other people and how I feel broken down by my bad experiences with people and how they used and emotionally manipulated me etc.

So the angel represents me as how I see myself as innocent being wanting to be friends and help people and the broken wing and grey background is to represent the sadness. The broken wing  represents how the badness in life in general and in people that breaks my heart.

This is how I am using my art to get out some of my negative emotions and thoughts, crating art that depicts how I feel and my thoughts has been a lot of fun and reduces me stress and anxiety to work on things that I enjoy. This is how I have been continuing my self therapy if letting go negativity from inside.

I am also working on creating art journals so I can continue creating smaller works of art and to include quotes and affirmations to help reduce my stress and other symptoms on days I feel bad.

How do you use your creativity, do you use it to relieve stress and does it help reduce negativity for you?

Questions about my role in life…

It can be very hard in the busy schedule of running around trying to manage and manoeuvre your way through hectic schedules and trying to meet high quality standards in everything you do. Some people still think and argue that housewives have an easier time of it compared to working people, but for someone with mental illness even the schedule of a housewife can seem busy, hectic and hard to manage.

Also there is the need to meet quality standards of cleanliness whilst looking after busy kids. You have to keep the house clean while chasing and cleaning after every new dirty area your kids leave in a mess, they can leave toys lying around or even bits of food crumbs or teared up bits of paper everywhere. You could just have finished vacuuming your house, only to find the lounge room full of bits of teared up paper, then you have to tidy and clean up all over again.

Then once any of your children has reached three years old they are expected to start schedules of regular playgroups or three year old kindergarten and you still have to do the shopping, pay bills etc. Cooking can take anywhere from half an hour to a few hours depending on what you make, then there is the almost never ending piles of dishes from meals and snacks.

It can actually be pretty hard to meet any sort of timing or scheduling sheet you might plan up even without a mental illness. When you have a mental illness it can be a pain or maybe impossible to try to stick to any sort of schedule because you also have your emotional or mental symptoms to deal with while you try to juggle all the stress and confusion of how to keep everything clean and under control.

Are you supposed to entertain and keep your children busy so they are learning and not making a mess, cleaning up after the mess and spills they create, doing the general cleaning or cooking for the nights meal? Having so much to do can be almost overwhelming if you do suffer from a mental illness. Then if you try to fulfil your own needs for hobbies or friends, it can be an almost impossible task of getting everything done.

Then there is also the possibility that your feeling needy to be pursuing any sort of hobby or ideas of working from home it can cause even more chaos. Learning how to fulfil your needs of achievement and how to feel as though you have a purpose in life can be tricky. Some people say that just by managing the general tasks of being a housewife and mother should be fulfilling in its own right.

What if it’s simply not enough or you feel like you’re simply not good at it no matter how hard you try? What if the place you’re given by life and the people around you doesn’t match your expectations for life? What if it doesn’t suit your personality type and you struggle to fulfil the role you’ve been given?

I’ve been told by a few people with mental illness that my need to be creative and to try to get myself known somehow and to gain some credit for my creative activities is a symptom of mental illness. My husband is also still trying also to get me to give up my craft hobbies so I can focus solely on my duties as a housewife.

So almost a week ago I started a little experiment to see if how I feel living without undertaking any major creative project and see if I’m able to live happily or not. So far there is a slight decrease in my frustration of trying to find time and ideas on how to get my projects posted online. I find myself able to focus better on most of my daily tasks I try to get done as apart of my role as housewife.

I still look for creative ways I can come up with activities to try with my son to try to give him some home schooling though. This means that I do have a bit of a way to go before I can say I have totally given up on my creative activities 100%. You do tend to use some creative ideas to try to keep children entertained and busy with activities that they can also learn from. If I’m not meant to create art and craft to sell I can at least channel some of my creative ideas and energy into creating activities for my son and have less guilt and less blame for wasting time on useless crafts.

How to keep going when you’re emotionally low…

When your emotional or mental health is at a low point, it can get pretty hard to keep working at trying to improve yourself. It can be pretty hard to work on improving your emotional health when you are too busy trying to stop it from getting worse. Sometimes it may seem hard enough merely to stop yourself from getting so low that you might resort to drastic negative steps such as hurting yourself to relieve some of the emotional pain you may be feeling.

Fighting off the negative demon’s can be so hard that it takes all your emotional energy and you often feel you don’t have enough to devote to try to make yourself happier for quite some time.

However, unless you totally give up on life and take the easy way out via suicide, there is no other option but to keep going. To continue living and continue on with everyday chores and duties that are assigned to you by your sex, age and your status in life.

Once you have struck rock bottom, it’s actually pretty easy to get back up and to continue working on everything, because as I said, unless you take the easy way out, there is actually no where else for you to go and nothing else to do. Once you get to the lowest point emotionally or physically, there is no other direction to go. Once you get to the point that you can’t go any lower, you can only go higher and can only improve, as you can’t get any worse already…

Also it’s key that you try to remember and visualise other times when you know you have been in a better situation, as this reminds and shows you that you can and have done better in the past. So you can see that you actually can do better again now as well. To know and remember that you have been emotionally healthier and happier is the best motivator, as you can’t disprove to yourself that you can’t manage to improve as you have already seen yourself in a better state.

It makes the process easier to simply live every day individually without planning too much for the future and without allowing yourself to wallow in any past failure or negative thoughts. Any short amount of time you manage to get something done should be seen as an accomplishment and used to help motivate you to get more done. Give yourself small prices as a celebration for every small goal you achieve and allow yourself to be happy with all small accomplishments.

If necessary make short lists of all things that you need to get done and don’t allow yourself to worry too much about any larger goals you need to get done, as this will possibly lead to procrastination and needless worry and stress.

Use positive affirmations and anything other positive information that you find helpful to help motivate yourself. Get someone who loves you to help motivate you, or try playing happy positive songs to get yourself going.

The main thing to remember is that you are only human, and every human is known to be making mistakes once in a while and that it’s not the end of the world if mistakes are made, days continue passing and people will continue to love you no matter what.

 

Self Help Ideas To Uplift Your Mood

Depression and other bouts of low mood can really put your life perspective and ideas about yourself way down on the scale. You can end up feeling terrible and sad for most of your days and sometimes it can become a cycle of negative thought patterns and negative emotions that seems almost impossible to get out of.

There are various ways a person can help lift their mood or thought patterns that everyone can try if they are unable to receive immediate therapeutic help from medical practitioners. While they might not solve the underlying issues causing the bouts of sadness or depression, they can certainly help with maintaining reduced negative thoughts and emotions.

Try talking to a close trusted friend or relative about anything that bothers you, or try writing about it in a journal. The main aim is to get the negative thoughts and emotions out of your system, to name and acknowledge them.

Take some time out by simply relaxing or resting, or go outside for a walk to take a break from any work that you are doing. Take time to smell the roses and look around at nature.

Try some relaxation or meditation techniques, if you find it hard to concentrate or meditate on your own, try playing a relaxation or meditation video online such as on Youtube or any similar online source.

Make sure that you are getting enough sleep at nights and that you are not feeling tired too often. Deprivation of sleep can cause a person to feel more negative and lethargic.

If you’re working on a particularly hard major project, list everything that has to get done and break them down into smaller projects that you can get done and give yourself small prizes for accomplishing each task.

Try some grounding exercises by taking approximately two to five minutes focussing only on your breathing and relaxing all your muscles.

All of these ideas can help you to try to help yourself feel better within yourself, but above all, try to spend some time really listening to your inner self. Try to pinpoint any major issues that are bothering you and making you upset the most and try to find ways to solve or reduce their affect upon yourself.

Use art or craft as a way to distract you from minor smaller issues that are not majorly problematic. Try using your art to let out some of your negative emotions and to try to reduce their affect on you.

If you are interested in learning how Self Help Art therapy can help you reduce your stress and negative emotions and thoughts, my new E-Book Creative Happiness might be useful to you. If you’re interested in reading it let me know and I will let you know when it’s available.

 

Haven’t been “blogging” in a while…

I took a short break from “blogging” while I worked on a major personal project related to using art as self therapy…

I also had a few health issues pop up and rear their ugly heads again. My health kept me back mostly due to both emotional as well as physical pain I had do deal with. Both kept me from being very motivated to doing much creatively, but mostly my main project had me busy for most of my busy time as I am getting very near to completing it. This main project was also helping me a lot with dealing with my emotional pain and issues and so I allowed myself to focus mainly on that for this reason also.

Sometimes we need to step back from some of our commitments if something more important and more beneficial has to be done. As this project I was working on was helping me so much with my working on my emotional and mental health I allowed it to become my main focus and so I was unable to get online as much as I would have liked and I was unable to spare enough time to work on my blog.

I have been working on an online self help guide using art and craft exercises for people to use their art and craft as self therapy to finding better happiness. It includes a short biography of my life and my symptoms and then goes into how to use art and craft for people with similar emotional issues to help decrease emotional symptoms and become happier and less stressed emotionally.

I am almost ready to launch a product that I am going to put online for sale sometime close to near years eve in 2017. I will be taking the next few months to test the product and ensure that it gives the benefits to people that I hope it to. I will be looking to find some volunteers to help me test the product, I have so far one extra volunteer and will be looking to find at least a few more before the end of the year.

If anyone is interested in helping out in testing my product, you can contact me either via email at: craftydivazaus@gmail.com   or on my Facebook account using Private Messaging: Jay Divaz